Life update

I know I have not been out here much, but frankly I have just had so much going on.

Jason's football team is 3-5 with one more game and two practices left. However, basketball tryouts start two days after football ends. Baskeball should be interesting this year. As we step out of rec and into 7th grade basketball we will be dealing with a coach who has a history of being a jerk. He has been known to bench his best players and has made comments in remarks to the kids that he stated were not good enough to make the middle school football team.

If you have been following my rants at all you know that this a bone of contention and political heat over MS football vs Jr. Football. Those who play Jr Football choose to be there for specific reasons - more practice, more games, better coaching, better competition, Saturday games. Not because they weren't good enough. So, that gives you an idea of the type of person we are dealing with. Plus, he has a history of favortism as well. One of the othe moms thinks he just doesn't like kids. Fortunately, we will have an Assistant Coach that has been coaching this group of kids on and off for 4 years.

Work has been busy, but not fruitful, which has been discouraging. I am hoping that sales pick up in the last two months of the year, otherwise I am going to be in some trouble.

As far as I know, the medication for my Dad's mental issues is working. But, frankly I have this habit of separating myself from him everytime he comes out of some medical catastrophe. So, other than the fact that I have been busy, and they never make an attempt to get to any of Jason's football games, I haven't seen him since we put him in the hospital and I have only talked to him a handful of times.

Lastly, and sadly, Jess was given the news yesterday that they have cancelled any future appointments and chemo for his Mom. She was supposed to start chemo up again this week, but the doctor stated that they have extended everything as far as they can and anything at this point won't be helping. They have given her 1 - 5 weeks to live, which means that it is unlikely that she will make it to Thanksgiving. They have a hospice aide coming in this week to help in her last few weeks.

Jason is still over there 2 - 5 days a week and strangely enough I did mention to him earlier this week that the 9 months that she was given as a maximum was approaching. I am trying to help him prepare for this as much as I can, but Grandma doesn't want him to know that she only has a handful of weeks. I don't want to cut his time with her, but I stressed again that if he is uncomfortable at any point or just doesn't want to be there that he can call any of us and someone will come get him since Grandpa can't leave Grandma right now. She is just to the point now where she can't be left alone. I think he finally is to that point where he has seen things get progressively worse and is open to leaving and not feeling like he has to be strong for her all the time.

I have already told my boss that I am supposed to be out of town for 3 out of the next 5 weeks and as soon as this happens I will be immediately on my way home. It's hard explaining that this is my Ex-MIL, but she is Jason's second Mom and my backup. My job is to be there for Jason and help him through this while his Dad needs to take care of all of the arrangements. My boss has been supportive and even offered to take my appointments if I need to leave - we are coming up with an emergency plan :-)

It tears me up to know that at the age of 12 that my son is losing one of the closest people in his life. It has been a year of loss and throughout this year Ira and Jason will have both lost their Grandmas (both Grandmas for Ira). At least Jason has 2 left, but neither of the ones still left will fill the void that this one will leave behind for him, that I am sure of.